I've spent a lot of my life developing control and self discipline. Control over my emotions (my sister used to call me "Mr Spock") control over my career, control over my finances. I was there with EVERY SINGLE ONE of the points on this graphic, and yes, I think those are VITAL skills to master.
But even Mr Spock echoed V-ger's lament: "Is this all there is? Is there no more?"
On the other hand, following our hearts willy-nilly with no thought of what our head is saying, is a sure way to an aimless life filled with disaster.
The key is always balance.
These days I'm working on fostering my heart as well as my mind. My art has a lot to do with that, and another great influence has been Lupus and the repeated threat of cancer I've been under these last several years.
I haven't gone over to Santa Fe woo, although I see what some people value in it. I have friends who've studied meditation and Buddhist philosophy, and who talk about "the falling away of the self" and such... all of which I view with a great deal of skepticism. One of my big issues is with the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism, which state, simply put:
1- all life is suffering
2- suffering is caused by want.
3- the way to end suffering is to not want.
4- the way to end want is the 8 fold path.
Now I'm not saying any of the Noble Truths are untrue, however, I'm not sure the "right" path includes an end to suffering and want.
Instead, I believe that suffering and want are essential to motivation, innovation, and creativity. I believe that necessity IS the mother of invention, and that living in total bliss is ignorant, self-centered, and probably a little psychotic.
That doesn't mean we shouldn't seek happiness. It means in the real world there is balance... or not... but there is always both suffering and joy, peace and conflict, and a time for every purpose under heaven (la la la)
Balance in all things. That seems to be the only way to really be prepared for all the possibilities and inevitabilities in life. To be able to balance heart and mind in making decisions and plans, to accept, struggle against, or wait out the bad times, to revel in the good, and to never, ever, give up a single tool in our mental tool boxes, be they discipline, love, joy, spontaneity, analysis, planning, determination, or whatever is needful.
Seeing the world with ONLY heart or ONLY mind is seeing only half the world... or being half blind.